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The Slow Evolution of Gay Culture in India

Societal values, the caste system, arranged marriages, the lofty probability of existence disinherited for coming out — in India, everything runs counter to queer liberation.

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I am at the Marriott on Beach in Mumbai, India. Bobby, a activist (I know only his first name), has invited me to a lgbtq+ soirée in one of the personal clubs: the basement of a massive palace. It is almost midnight, and I find myself in the sort of extravagant and grandiose party Indians specialize in. India is not a “cool” country; it is a “hot” country (as the writer Salman Rushdie puts it). Youthful women are wrapped in improbable dresses with large multicolored scarves; young men wear turbans or chic HSBC bank officer’s suits. There are huge cakes with whipped cream, served at will, and everyone seems to flirt and kiss each other. The proportion of gays seems significant, but the place is mixed, unseal, always discreet, and codes are valued, for good measure. “Here it is not a soirée, it’s a p

Earlier this month, first-year graduate student, Rafiul Alom Rahman, distributed some of his insights on how gay men from small towns in India adjust to animation in larger cities, living in what he terms a &#;self-imposed exile.&#; He notes that:

For gay and bisexual men from compact towns who flock to urban centres for higher education or employment opportunities, the city has much to offer. But, as my friend suggested, this also comes at a cost—an exile from one’s roots in an alienating city.

Rafiul goes on to describe the variety of ways that gay and gender-nonconforming people who move to larger metro areas like Delhi must use the anonymity of the city, as well as online spaces such as YouTube and gay internet dating apps, to explore their identities. With this expansion comes a comfort in participating in public events, such as the Delhi Queer Pride Parade. Rafiul states that:

Delhi’s LGBT movement, like that of many major cities in India and, indeed, globally, has been criticized for its lack of critical engagement with questions of caste and class, among other things. Fo
‘I have sacrificed a lot’: Growing up LGBTQ+ in India
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Like most parents, Sourav’s would like to see him “settled”. In India, however, this is a loaded concept. Entity happy, healthy and financially secure are all important, but making a good marriage is the cornerstone of “settling down”. Indeed, year-old Sourav, an IT professional in one of India’s metro cities, would make a superb husband to a man of his choice. But that is the problem.
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In , when he told his parents he was gay, their illusion of him as the perfect son shattered. He recalled how his mother cried so much, she required emergency hospitalisation for dehydration and low blood pressure. His father did not speak to him for three months.
Unlike Sourav, who confidentl

LGBTQ+ Travel Guide to India
Experiencing Indian Food
In general, Indians eat four meals a day, starting with a lighter breakfast, more heavier meals for lunch and dinner, and then finish with high tea and sweets in the evening. Indian food varies across the country with each region utilizing local masalas (spices), so the style, name and style of cooking is very specific to each state. The staple food typically includes wheat, rice and pulses, with chana being the most important one. A variety of condiments and garnishes are typically included, such as chutneys, relishes and pickles. Some of the more commonly acknowledged western dishes are butter chicken, paneer, tandoori, samosas and kabobs.
Curries are often the strongest ingredient, providing the most powerful flavors in rogan josh, korma, vindaloo, dopiaza and dhansak. The main course is often served with a roti flatbread and biryani rice dish, along with a mix of legumes, nuts, fruits and vegetables. Various meats are often added, with lamb, goat and mutton being most common. Fish and seafood, including shrimp, crabs, squid, cl