Top vs bottom gay relationship
Is tops vs bottoms a deal breaker?
Is it just me, or does the conversation of “tops vs bottoms” always come up when talking about lgbtq+ or lesbian sex?
For clarification, a foremost is one who gives penetration or stimulation (dominant) and the bottom is one who receives (submissive).
I always idea it was just a gay male thing, but I can’t count the number of times I’ve been asked whether I’m a top or a bottom.
I’ve been asked this question by straight allies, too, although they pos it more eloquently by saying, “so are you the boy, or the girl?”
While the ask would be a rude one for most, I contain a reputation of being an unlock book at times, so being asked the question never phases me. It usually makes me laugh.
My witty response most often leaves them dumbfounded. “It depends on my mood,” I’ll speak. Or, “you reflect that’s really a thing?”
As a pansexual, very feminine chick, my sexuality has always been fluid. I give, I receive, I accept , and I’ve even been known to share. Sometimes I’m the pursuer and sometimes the pursuee. So, I’ve never known how to accurately answer that
Top, bottom and switch: Which are you and what are you looking for?
While the terms top, bottom and switch were created by and for lgbtq+ men, they are becoming more frequently used amongst LGBTQ+ women and neutrois people. They can be pretty confusing, because they can refer to someone’s sexual preferences, level of dominance, role in their relationships, or all of the above.
Whichever you distinguish with, or even if you don’t identify with any of these terms, there’s someone out there for you. So whether you prefer tops, bottoms, or have no taste at all- use HER to connect with lgbtq+ women who are exactly what you’re looking for. Your person could be closer than you think.
LGBTQ+ women: What’s a top?
A top in a sapphic relationship is generally the one who is more dominant, and prefers giving to receiving sexual pleasure. As with all sexuality, tops fall on a spectrum. Some tops will be happy to obtain some of the age, but prefer giving. Some tops don’t want to receive at all. Two people who choose to call themselves tops might not work well together in bed- simply be
What Does “Top” Mean?
In the context of gay relationships and sexual dynamics, terms such as “top”, “bottom”, “verse” and “side” are often used to portray a person’s sexual preferences and roles. It is important to knowing these terms not only for members of the Queer community, but also for increasing understanding and acceptance of queer relationships in society.
What Does “Top” Mean?Physical AspectsEmotional and Psychological AspectsCommunication and ConsentWhat Does “Bottom” Mean?Physical AspectsEmotional and Psychological AspectsThe Stigma Around Creature a BottomWhat Does “Verse” Mean?Accepting DiversityCommunication and CompatibilityWhat Does “Side” Mean?Non-Penetrative IntimacyOpposing NormsAccepting One’s IdentityRoles and MythsHealth and Safety During Gay Sex
As a command, in gay sexual relationships, the “top” is the partner who has a penetrative role during anal sex. However, the framework of top includes much more than just physical actions: it includes a whole set of attitudes, preferences, and sometimes passionate roles.
Physical Aspects
In physical terms, the t
Troye Sivan said he's a 'verse' during sex, not a 'top' or 'bottom.' Here's what the terms mean.
Troye Sivan, a singer known for his track "Bloom," recently set straight rumors that he only enjoys receiving penetration during sex.
"I think in the sort of consciousness of male lover people I'm some crazy might bottom or something, which is just not the case, and I just wanted to lay that out there," Sivan, a gay man, said on Emily Ratajkowski's podcast "High Low."
Sivan said that he's a "verse," definition he enjoys both penetrating a partner and being penetrated during sex.
"Verse," as well as the terms "top" and "bottom" are popular ways to describe sexual preferences in the queer community.
While the terms were originally used to describe the sexual preferences of queer men in the s, more LGBTQ+ people own adopted the terms to communicate about what they like in sex.
Lately, top/bottom/verse discourse has grown more visible on TikTok, where queer people have been making videos describing the unique struggles of each preference.
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